So, as most of you have heard, I am now engaged- The biggest moments in my life (outside of accepting what Jesus did for me on the cross) do not amount to this step in my journey. There is something so exciting, and so glorious about two people so beautifully coming together in such a divine way. I’m not going to tell the whole story of us coming together, but I am going to tell the story of the engagement and what took place. I think Danike and I will put something together concerning our entire story for our wedding day (which is not picked yet people!) just to add something special to it. So, here’s what went down 🙂
Danike and I had talked about marriage and what not before the big October 22nd, 2011 date, but we just didn’t know when we would get engaged. We were extremely open and put all things on the table with everything about our relationship and it was no surprise that I was some day going to ask her to marry me. The nice thing was, Danike was under the impression that it could be as late as sometime in 2012 before I would have money to buy a ring and what not. In fact, I was under this impression as well! This didn’t keep me from wanting to know what ring I was going to buy the woman of my life who would walk with me for as long as we lived. I started praying about it, I said something along the lines of, “God, I want this ring to be the ring that you want Danike to have.” And instantly the verse of Ecclesiastes 4:12 came to mind: “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” The funny thing about this verse is, I’ve read it plenty of times before this. This was the first time that I understood what it meant. What used to go through my head was, “What? It was just talking about two, and now it’s talking about three… What is going on here?!” but I realized what it meant right away. The Holy Spirit opened my eyes, just like scripture talks about. When two people who love Jesus and have been redeemed by his blood come together, it is not just the two of them, but they are braided into their purpose with God. I knew right away that the ring needed to represent that. I spent the next while speaking with different jewelers and what not and finally decided to go with Kay in Twelve Oaks Mall. I gave them some drawings and pictures of what I wanted the ring to looks like, and they began the process of putting this thing together.
Now, Danike and I had long talked about wanting to watch the sunset on Lake Michigan and were planning on spending a day out in Grand Haven. So, we picked a date, October 22nd, 2011, and we were going to fulfill that desire! Now, I never intended to have that date be our engagement necessarily, but the thought had gone through my mind. As October 22nd approached, more and more I felt the desire to have that day be our engagement. That being said, I was on a mission to push these jeweler people to get my woman’s ring made! Just a couple weeks before the Grand Haven trip, I stopped by the store, and told Marcus my plans- Right away they started putting things together to get this done in time. That being said, it was no easy task. They came back with a wax for the ring Friday the 14th of October, and part of the ring was not designed the way we had discussed…It was starting to look like I wasn’t going to be engaged till after our Grand Haven adventure, and I was pretty discouraged. Marcus ensured me they were going to try anything and everything to get this right and get me a ring in time. Long story short, The ring came through with some hand crafted touches by a talented jeweler, and just in time as it was 6pm on Friday, just the day before October 22nd. Mind you, we were driving out to Lowell, MI that night to spend the night at Danike’s aunt’s house there, so I really needed the ring that day. Now, just a little about the ring-the braid pattern goes around the entire ring. God is represented by the center strand, as the two outside strands represent Danike and I and weave over, above, and around the strand representing God. Something Danike pointed out that I hadn’t realized at first, is that the center strand continues throughout the entire ring- this was designed that way for structural purposes, and quite fitting as God’s eternity is to be our structure in life! The three diamonds in the ring again represent the three of us. Danike and I on the outsides, God in the center, just as we will choose to keep him in the center of our relationship and lives always. The Lord is really awesome, and definitely had his hand in all of that process, and I give him glory for giving me grace.
Okay, I’ve got this ring, and I have a plan- now to just carry it out. Step 1. Put the ring box in the body of my guitar..”What? Why did you do that, David?” ..Don’t worry, you’ll find out : ) Step 2. Let’s hit the road and do this thing! We were off by about 7:30pm to get to Lowell, MI where we would spend the night..right after I forgot my wallet at home that is, and had to drive back 15 minutes to get it. Good start, David! Woo! Alright, wasn’t going to let that get to me, let’s move on with it! Spending the night in Lowell was wonderful and I was able to meet more of my fiance’s family, (ps- if any of you are reading this, it was really great meeting you all and I’m so happy to be joining you in your family!) Saturday morning rolled around quite quickly. It was the big day. I was about to be engaged! (!!!!!!!!!!!!!). We left early enough, and arrived in Grand Haven where I surprised Danike with our first stop- a nice breakfast at the Morning Star Cafe. Why is this significant? Danike’s name means “morning star” and God put this cafe there just for that moment I believe..it was her day, and God really loves her enough to put something in the plans like that. It was one of the best breakfasts I’d ever had, and they even sent us out with Coffee and Tea to-go at no extra charge! From there we stopped at a nice little used book store where we just lingered for a little while- it’s one of Danike’s favorite things to do, and she’s a big reader (and I really enjoy books as well, I’m just not as good at keeping myself on top of reading : ) ). Anywho, from there, we made our way to the Tri-City Museum and looked at some interesting little things there. I’ve told some people this already, but, did you know that they were able to put trains on boats, and transport them to other areas?! I thought that was pretty wild 😛 After our adventure there, we walked down the Grand Haven boardwalk laughing and loving and all that good stuff. We reached the lighthouse/peer and stayed there for a little while and enjoyed the view. You get a bigger idea of how big God is when you see all that water in one place. We made our way back to a restaurant that was on the boardwalk where we had this awesome mushroom appetizer thing..had cheese on it and what not, it was good. We both had bowls of soup, and Danike had a delicious root beer. The biggest thing I will remember about being in here is seeing this older couple, probably in there 70′ or 80’s, having lunch together, making each other laugh, and being completely in love still. It was a beautiful site for a young couple in love. Oh, by the way, we had a pretty late lunch, and it was now time for us to make our way to the Rosy Mound Natural Area. It was a park that had a few different trails leading to some sandy dunes of Lake Michigan. After Danike took a few minutes to close her eyes in the car, we both dressed in some nicer clothes (which I talked her into) and made our way to the beach. The funny thing is, we had both been planning on just walking barefoot the 1.5 miles we had to walk, but the ground was a little too cold as it was a sort of gravel pathway for part of the way, so we decided to put our sneakers on. So! Here we go, got my guitar in hand, picnic basket, we’re dressed up, wearing sneakers, got our not very fancy winter coats on 🙂 hahaha. The glorious thing is, this just defined our ridiculousness, and anyone who knows us well enough will understand. The journey to the beach was glorious, with the path cutting through a forest of trees (it was also a little breath taking in a literal sense with all those stairs- sorry Danike =x ..) We came across a couple on the path who asked, “ohh, is something special going on?” I believe the lady was intrigued by the guitar. So I responded as nicely as I could- “yup, just for us two!” Now get this, she continues to respond now with, “do you mind eavesdroppers?” I wanted to say, “lady, you’re being creepy..” but instead I said, “depends how close you are!” and we went on our way. Haha. 🙂 We got down to the beach, and the sun was making it’s way down the sky- it was about 6pm or so at this point. We sat down at the shore and I pulled my guitar out and just started playing some music. No words, just the sound of my hands playing the guitar. Some words were shared, some laughs were had, some smiles were shown (a bunch of them actually). I was getting nervous though, and the sun was taking a REALLY long time to go down. “That’s it” I thought, I have to do something. I asked Danike if she wanted to go for a little walk- so, we went about 5 minutes down the shoreline, and came right back. “Oh no! The sun is going down to fast now!” I thought to myself. We got back to where we had been sitting, and I started playing my guitar again- This was it..I’m about to do this. I’m going to ask this woman to MARRY ME! They could hear my heart beating in Wisconsin at that point! At least, it felt that way. I started to sing a little song I’d wrote for this moment, but I’d only written the first half, as I wanted the last of it to be from my heart and on the spot. It ended with, “I just have one last question.” At this point, I stopped playing my guitar, reached into my pocket, and to much of Danike’s surprise I pulled out… “WIRE CUTTERS!? David what the heck are you doing?!” I imagine that’s what was going on through Danike’s head 🙂 I proceeded to cut away the strings on my guitar, and Danike proceeded to ask, “David, what are you doing?!” I just responded with, “These strings are no good! They’ve got to go.” (You should’ve seen the look on her face!) After cutting through three strings, I reached into the body of the guitar and pulled out the ring box which held the symbol of commitment to life and love. “Oh my goodness…David, oh my goodness.” That’s all I remember her saying as I pulled her up, got on my knee, and pulled the purity ring off of her finger that was given to her by her mother. I spoke words from my heart, opened the box, and asked Danike Becker to marry me. -She said yes, and I put that ring right where it belonged. 🙂
I’m the happiest man alive at this moment in time- hands down. There is so much to do now, and so much to plan. But even more, God has so much for us to do for him..together, as a team. There is so much I haven’t been able to talk about as far as my calling goes and what not that I can now share. So much of my calling has to do with Danike being in my life now…be ready for great things to come-
Danike Becker, you are my fiance. I love you so much. I look forward to the rest of our life-